The upshot is the social me.
I had never thought of admiration as an emotion, but, of course, it belongs with the hierarchy, pecking order stuff. So, on the one hand, as I admire you, I'm lifting you up and setting myself down in comparison. That's why comparisons are odious.
On the other hand, as I admire you I'm recognising at least a potential in myself to be admirable. And my experience is that, as I feel love and kindness and compassion and respect for others, I get softer and wider and wetter and more available to receive the thwock of the other.
And so, this seems to relate to that thing about friendship: the more I do for you or give you, the more I will like you because (in my simple world) it's clear that I wouldn't do a lot for you unless you were a lovely person. And, as I've just proved to myself that you're a lovely person, then I should do more for you.
And so the wide spiral of generosity or charity or love begins.